Bumble girls do seem more empowered to me. That said, here are some ideas that worked for me, and they're all based on being what I call a more feminist male.
But in the end stl rate my date, if you're “real” then you need to show these ladies that you're serious about meeting and are not just going to ghost her. The Blue Shield Badge is the first thing that catches her attention and it shows there's nothing “off” about you.
2. Write a quick but fun Bumble bio to grab her attention
I know Tinder encourages a little bit of trolling in the bio. But here, I think it's more important to get across what's special about you. Don't just share your interests, focus on fun facts.
Give her a hint of your fun personality. Talk about your hobbies and interests but make it funny. Talk about cool things you do, but make it snappy and short.
Also, if you're looking exclusively for hookups, you might want to mention that. You don't want anyone to accidentally catch feelings after a hookup.
3. Connect your social accounts to reassure her that you're real
Going one step beyond site verification, you can connect your Facebook and Instagram profiles to Bumble and bond with potential matches over common interests, or shared tastes in music. You e restaurants or clubs.
It's also nice for users to browse your socials and get a deeper idea of who you are as a person.
4. Pick the right time to maximize your chances
Bumble's own research suggests that people really do date according to their moods – and these moods are vastly influenced by certain days of the week.
But Friday and Saturday are better days for women saying, “Meh, why not?” and that's all it takes for your luck to change. It also helps to be closer to the dating hour, like around 6 or 7 PM.
Women are more inclined to right swipe someone they can meet – like right now – and not chat with more days or weeks on end.
You see, the longer you wait, the more distractions come up. She might meet someone else, match with someone more exciting, or some terrible tragedy may happen in her life.
But time is of the essence. Some surveys have even said that users get more right-swipe happy during big thunderstorms, or pandemics. So if there's a BIG THING going on at the moment (whether good or bad) that might actually work to your advantage in getting matches.
Bumble suggests replying to her opening message on Sunday (a little bit later, like around 10PM), since that seems to be “wind down time” and the best time to catch her for a longer conversation.
5. Keep it short and funny – we're not here for Shakespeare
While a lot of guys are tempted to be “interesting” and write their ass off for a Bumble date, I found the opposite to be true. Fast was better. Short was awesome. And yes, even emojis and GIFs got the point across better than long paragraphs of pontificating.
Also, make your intentions clear if you're using Bumble for hookups instead of dating. They actually give you an option for declaring this, which will be shared publicly unless you say you're “not sure yet”.
6. Make it EASY for a woman to make the first move
Although it's true that women make first contact with Bumble, that doesn't necessarily mean the pressure is on them. It's still on you, Bruh, you just got to make it EASY for her to start a conversation.